My camera likes to find the glowy bits, the sacred more than the dirt.
I got to talking with my sisters-in-law recently about the pressure of keeping up with
Western "mom-culture," as seen through the filters of Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, and their ilk.
As an artist, I promote myself. I show my best side.
As media-savvy socialites, we most of us show our best sides.
We share our successes, because... who wants to share the flops?
But regular scans of others' tidy homes, clean kids, and glorious creations
can feed into a suffocating sense of failure, especially among mamas.
{It's so clean out there! So tidy! So productive! So creative! So delicious!
So overwhelming! }
With such a tide of seeming success out there, how can one stay afloat?
In truth, my house is so messy from life and work that I don't want to open my doors.
And yet!
I think the secret to staying afloat is being honest.
Maybe the rest of everyone is as clean and productive and delicious as they seem, but I am not.
And I have a hunch that there are a few lovely souls out there like me, too.
So here is me, letting you in past the front door.
I am cobwebbed and sloppy.
I don't like to sweep or clean the windows.
I don't remember to dust.
I like to read. I love to make art. I want to write.
I love to snuggle with my family. I like to watch sunsets.
When all those things are accomplished for the day, I breathe.
Sometimes I clean up.
And the thing about the mess is
that we live here.
We, with all our strings and nests.
We, with our hive of buzzing. our endless scraps of paper
our mountains of books.
We, with our jars of pencils. Our oddball sorts of tape and fabric and library card and rubber band and broken watch.
We, with our shuffle-off-your-shoes and slough off the backpacks, hunker down with a good book, snuggle in for a daydream or a few minutes of escape and forget the chores.
What does our mess represent?
That dinner happens here.
Not elegant. Often blacky on the edges.
But family and chatter and real plates and silverware.
That health happens here.
Not spit-spot. Often grimy. with mildew creeping on the fringes.
But fresh, running water and soap. Running shoes. Soccer gear. Bikes. Laundry.
Music happens here. More practice than polished. But honest and earnest.
Art blooms here.
With scribbles and smudges. With paper crowding all the corners.
With story starts and muddy middles.
This is us.
This is our mess.
A haven. A canvas. A library.
for dreamers, athletes, artists, readers.
Life is a beautiful mess.
Here's to enjoying the sacred
and the dirt, my friends.
What does your mess represent?
Our latest reads:
Also an Octopus by Maggie Tokuda-Hall, ill. by Benji Davies
Leaves by David Ezra Stein
Fletcher and the Falling Leaves by Julia Rawlinson, ill. by Tiphanie Beeke
Book Scavenger - by Jennifer Chambliss Bertman
